Most of you like to think of yourselfs as helpful. Most would not turn away from a friend who needed assistance that you were well able to give - at no cost to yourself but your time and energy. Many would still not turn away if helping involved the sacrifice of real material ‘wealth’ i.e. money or goods. Many give freely of yourself to others.
Why do you do this?
I ask you this that you may ask this of yourself and continue to ponder until you have an answer that is the truth and not the first thought, necessarily, that pops into your mind – for the first thought is likely to be a distraction to protect you from the truth.
Your mind is protective of you and it puts blocks and barriers that prevent you from seeing what is real, because you may feel bad about yourself if you could see what was your Truth. Not that there is any reason to feel bad, you are who you are and that’s fine. Service is taught to be good. When you were a child and you ‘helped’ Mummy or Daddy you were praised and encouraged and given the message, one way or another, that you were a good boy, or a good girl. Of course, even without stating it categorically, the implication that you are a bad boy/girl when you do not help, especially when help is needed, is present and programmed deeply into your subconscious. So, consider my question again in the light of this knowledge. Is it just possible that you help others out of a subconscious desire to please ‘Mummy’ or ‘Daddy’, even though they have no awareness of your good deeds?
This is not an attack on helpfulness. Helpfulness is wonderful. I mean after all that’s my job – to be of assistance to you. However, I am not driven by the desire to please another, I am driven by the Love that fills my Soul - the Love that is my Soul. And that makes a big difference to the sense of satisfaction that results. You see helpfulness is frequently driven by the desire to ‘not feel bad’ which is the consequence of not helping. This is otherwise known as Guilt. Guilt is a long, long way from love. Love does not feel bad for not doing something. Love simply recognises What Is and accepts it.
Guilt is a social control mechanism. It is something you are taught. It is not a naturally occurring emotion. No child feels guilty until it is taught it is bad for being itself. The heavier the guilt indoctrination, the stronger is likely to be the desire, or the drive, to please or to serve others.
Love serves itself; that does not mean serves itself up on a plate. Love recognises first and foremost its own needs and desires. It does not ignore these when another requires something of it. In response to a request for assistance Love looks at its own needs and if the request does not conflict with these needs then help is given freely.
Consider, one who, as a child, was granted little independence, little freedom to make its own decisions, little room to manoeuvre, little room to explore… This one has grown up in a straight jacket and will be needy in adulthood. Does it serve this one’s best interests to assist always. Or would it better serve this one to, even at this late stage, find its own feet, its own independence – painful though this process might be for this one. This is not ‘cruel to be kind’. There is no cruelty in recognising what is appropriate behaviour.
It is never appropriate to serve in order to avoid feelings of guilt. Better to refuse and then interrogate the Guilt to see who He really is and what erroneous message he has been given to communicate to you.
You can survive feeling guilty. There is only imprisonment to live for others. Live for yourself. Live to be and to express the Love that you are.
With Love,
Himal
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