Giving Something Back – working with spirit companions
By Dorothy Davies
During my years in spiritualism I’ve learned to ask one question of any spirit who comes close, why are you here? It seems a silly question in some ways; guides come because they need to be close and work with us, help us and nudge us along the right pathway, but others come at times for different reasons. I have found they come for help, consolation, love and acceptance.
The first person to come close and all but ask for help was Daniel. He arrived in circle as a clown. This meant some sitters refused to accept him, as they only wanted the heavy philosophy of the North American Indians or Egyptians they were used to. Daniel quickly became a friend and, as with all clowns, revealed his ‘other’ face, that of a tragic concentration camp victim. He needed his story told to release him from what turned out to be a totally appalling incarnation. I accepted the task and, 2½ years later, finished his book. It was tortuous. Some nights we only wrote one line, for five months I wrote nothing at all while he went to higher levels for healing. After that he came back fighting fit, determined to finish the book. It was harrowing, heartbreaking but releasing, for this much loved spirit person found his release in writing out his story and is now more light than spirit. He gave me much laughter and a tremendous amount of love during that time, very much a two-way relationship, one I cherished as long as it lasted.
This project did two things: set me on the pathway of channelling books from spirit ‘authors’ and taught me the ‘art’ of channelling a full length book on someone’s life. It isn’t easy, as some of the events caused much trauma and that in turn creates its own pain. I cried many tears with Daniel and for him, and have continued to weep over books ever since. Sometimes they are my tears, sometimes they are spirit tears: they come from the middle of the eyelids and are huge, rolling straight down my face and soaking everything. I know which are which!
I have many people with me for many different reasons. Some are guides, people wise beyond belief. My Mayan priest is one, he is my ‘walked with me since birth’ guide and the one I trust, when in trance, to give me the communications people need. The great guide Ramadan said most mediums have three guides, as you progress you gain more, up to seven. I have seven in all. Others are companions. They are not with me for guidance, but for love, companionship, laughter and, most of all, for their own reasons, so I can help them progress and move on.
When my medieval companion came to me, he brought with him all the traumas of his life and his execution. Because of his problems, I arranged spiritual healing and for some months he went every morning for an hour. I then found that others who came to me also benefited from healing and before long the angel healers had more work than they could cope with in a manner of speaking! A musician who visits me regularly for companionship and affection also went through the healing process. He doesn’t come as often as he did, as he has learned to accept his passing and his new life. Now the visits are to say ‘hi, is everything all right?’ and yes, it is, for another spirit has been set on the right pathway.
I currently have a lot of people around me, waiting for their stories to be told. Some are simply waiting, others, whilst waiting, have been turning to spiritual work. One has started healing, another is helping my cardinal with his work, yet another is counselling. From being dispossessed spirits carrying burdens which they will eventually release through their books, they are becoming useful and, in some instances, vital members of my team. One, a former king, (his expression) is involved in both rescue work and healing and is finding great peace of mind in being truly useful. We are working on his book right now.
The question you are probably asking is this: with all the wisdom and guidance on the other side, why do they come back to us to help them? The answer, which is being given to me as I write this, is that it is as much for our development and progression as theirs. By using my love, compassion, friendship, wisdom and understanding, limited though it is by human standards, I am developing slowly and carefully even as I work with them. I have had to learn many things: for example, one companion I grew very fond of was destined to share his life with a friend in the States, to help his progression too. I had to learn to let go. I have found I am a stepping stone: a musician was visiting me courtesy of another friend and I found myself passing him on to a composer/musician who has worked with him ever since. Again, it was letting go but also realising I was the connection, the bridge between the two very different people who would not otherwise have made contact. Yes, the spirit could have gone from one to the other but he might have found it much harder to make himself known to the composer. By my saying ‘I am sending you XXXXX,’ the connection was made and my friend was able to accept the new arrival. (Strangely though, he has since returned to be with me. I was told he feels better when he is around me.)
These thoughts came to a head recently when I asked for a portrait of one of my companions, who tells me he is my Fool. He told me I asked for a Fool (I didn’t) that he is my Fool (he is) and that I would enjoy having a Fool (I do). The artist responded immediately that the guides wanted to know what he wanted of me, why he was with me, what he hoped to learn by being with me, what progression he felt he had to make. This was as much for his progression and development as for mine. I finally got him to admit why he was there, what he wanted to accomplish, how much he had to make recompense for, what he had to learn from being with me. I sent it all to the artist and got his portrait. In explaining why he is here he found release and ease of mind, even if it did come very hard! It’s a form of confession: I am here because I did this and felt that and committed that and wish to make amends, to learn how to live differently. He told me that he wishes to learn how I live by my motto ‘the truth shall set you free’ as it was something alien to him and his time, where everyone lived by deceit, double-dealing and power-play. My simpler truthful life is a revelation to him.
It really is a complex relationship. My friend in the States commented that he thought they were just with us but now he sees it is far deeper than that. We are here to work with them as much as they are there to work with us. Even guides work with us for their own progression: when we go home, they are able to move on through the realms, having done so much work during our lifetime. It is all linked, it is all part of the great Master Plan, it is all part of the whole. It’s taken me some time to see it, but now I do, I feel I need to tell others about it, so they can benefit from it, too.
Giving something back. I get so much love, laughter, friendship, companionship, wisdom and now books to write (and hopefully sell) from those who are around me that it is inconceivable I would not give something back, somehow. As with the revelation of what it is all about, it’s taken time to realise what I am giving back, apart from my time and energy to write their books.
The first thing is acceptance. My companion came with a terrible reputation, in part caused by historians not looking past the figure they see in history books. I did, I said ‘let’s work out why you did this and went there’ ever onward until the real character emerged and resulted in a spirit companion who wants to make amends by working with me to help others. He also helps me write.
In acceptance comes the second thing: love. Someone said recently ‘of course there is a bond’: no, not a bond, it goes deeper than that. When you really work with a spirit person, you love them and in that love they find the acceptance they need to be a full spirit being, able to see the light and accept it. The darkest of deeds needs to be laid bare, to see the light, to dissolve away in the intensity of the light. That comes through love.
There are thousands and millions of troubled souls looking for acceptance and love. If someone comes close to you, someone who does not seem to be a guide or one of your family members, ask what they would like of you, take on one of the ‘waifs and strays’ of the spirit world, offer your love, compassion and understanding in return. They may stay, they may take all you have to give and move on, as my Daniel did, leaving a legacy of love behind him. It doesn’t matter. What matters is giving something back as well as gaining something for yourself, tremendous satisfaction and happiness and another step in your own progression.
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